Can I ever get past the traumas I have experienced?
I have worked in the field of trauma recovery for decades. I have great respect for traumatic stress responses. These symptoms are often our body, mind and heart’s ways of trying to keep us safe in an uncertain world. I also believe that you can choose to discontinue ways of coping that are no longer useful, and build healthier and more peace-invoking techniques for safety that match your world today.
The first step is to engage in a complete assessment. Quite possibly, you have been coping in ways that were initially effective, but by now have formed nearly-invisible habits that solidified over time. For example, if you avoid uncertainty, if you are reluctant to trust, if you consider yourself consistently vulnerable to harm even when all signs say that you are safe, you may be coping with a traumatic stress response. Substance use, such as alcohol or drugs, may make you feel momentarily safer. They may have longer-term negative consequences, however, for your body, your mind, and your relationships.
After determining the effects of significant stress, you can consider your own value system for replacing old coping strategies with healthier techniques that match who you intend to be in your life and relationships today. Whether you are quiet or outgoing, have unlimited or restricted resources, are in a joyful intimate relationship or not, are all important factors to consider. You may be interested in augmenting or even replacing psychotherapy with the science of medicine, biofeedback or neurofeedback, or the healing potential of naturopathic or other complementary care support. Together, we can consider what you want to keep, what you want to change, and what you can add to your wealth of options. No one approach meets everyone’s needs.
I have gathered a wide range of skills over the years. As we work together, your favourite ways of healing will become apparent, and you will learn skills for moving ahead into the life you want to lead.